Paying for mental health or life coaching services can be one of the greatest investments you make. It can also be the greatest waste of your money. The difference depends on your willingness to change.
I have had clients reach out for my services and discuss how they want to change, yet when it came time for them to act upon those desires, they put zero work into the process. They expected me to do the work for them and then became bitter when they didn’t achieve the results they wanted. But that’s the problem: they didn’t achieve the results. They showed up and expected change to happen when they made no effort to change.
This mindset isn’t just specific to mental health counseling and life coaching; it also exists in workout programs and in professional life. People pay for programs with hopes to become better, and many put in the bare minimum and expect to see results. But just because you showed up to practice and skated by doesn’t mean results magically happen.
The amount of effort you put in directly impacts the results you achieve.
You may understand this equation, but do you really comprehend it? Let’s make sure, starting with this statement: Just because you paid for results does not mean you are owed results. We—as coaches, therapist, and doctors—will help guide you to the results you paid for, but we can’t do the work for you. We don’t see or know what you’re doing outside of sessions, which is where the real change—the real conquests—occur. During sessions, we are limited in helping you by the amount of motivation you have to change as well as what you do outside of the session to drive that change forward.
All this being said, you need to ask yourself the following questions before reaching out for coaching services (which can be done here.):
How bad do you want to change?
What are you willing to sacrifice to achieve your goals?
Who may be hurt if you make a change? (And how does that affect your desire?)
Fact: It is easy to say that you want to change, but acting on that desire is a different element altogether. If intent is not met with action, we—coaches, therapists, and doctors—are at a disadvantage. We will try to help you where we can, but we won’t be able to deliver without your buy-in. And if you aren’t invested, you’ll likely continue to move from one coach to another, seeking the secret of success, experiencing failure at each turn, and burning bridges in the process. Or maybe you quit altogether.
If you’re caught in this cycle, you need to reassess what you want, why you want it, and what you’re willing to do to achieve it. Once you ask yourself these questions and commit to the actions required to achieve your goals, life will start to change. If you put in the work, we can help drive you to those goals, help you find greater meaning in your actions, and help direct your perspective. And while we cannot guarantee that the process will be seamless and effortless, we can guarantee that you will reap what you put into the program. All you need to do is ask.
Change is difficult, but it can be immensely rewarding. And while we can help move you toward the change you wish to see, it is up to you to put in the work. Too often we find ourselves blaming someone else for our problems, but you’re the only variable causing change in your life.
So what are you going to do about it?
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